Show me an adult that puts up with emotional abuse..

And I'll show you a child who was emotionally abused by his/her parent.

Staying in an abusive relationship is a learned skill.

You become desensitized to emotional abuse, you normalize it and then get addicted to it.

Let me give you a picture of how it starts..

A child raised in a family system that is controlling, and domineering conditions the child to give up their emotional needs for the acceptance of the parent.

If they have younger one's, they're groomed to ALWAYS give up things to make the younger one happy.

It's ALWAYS others first. Their needs ALWAYS comes last.

Did I tell you the child is groomed to take the blame for the parents emotional immaturity?

Yes.

The child is blamed for the parents anger, frustration and outburst.

You will hear the parents say things like, I flogged you or I shouted because you made me angry.

Do we really hit or yell because of what the children did or because of what is happening in us🤷

Well, that will be a conversation for another day. Let me continue with our conversation 😔

As the child grows up into adulthood, he/she learn to apologize for what isn't this/her fault.

He/she get scared of losing attention and love.

He/she becomes an expert people-pleaser.

He/she normalize emotional abuse.

And get addicted to abusers.

Whether in relationship, marriage, at work, just everywhere.

No, this isn't the life you have to subject your child into.

I know you want your child to have a better life..

So, pay keen attention here..

If you were emotionally abused by your parents, intentionally break that cycle of emotionally abusing your children.

Emotional abuse on children is a transgenerational pattern. Seek professional help.

Intentionally work on your family system.

Permit your child to have a voice and preference.

Learn to honor your child's emotional need.

Your child deserves better.

Always remember; the life we live as adults, begins with how we were raised as children.