Hmm, wetin my eyes see for NYSC.

I remember when I was serving at the Defence Headquarters in Abuja.

This was actually one of the reasons I said I didn't want to end up with a uniformed husband.

Because tell me why it almost felt like some of these men hadn't seen women before. If you were new there, it was almost a competition to see who could make you their side chick.

Anyway, there was this married man who took an interest in me. He liked gisting and would often come to my office to check in on me.

At first, I was quite naive about the whole thing and genuinely thought he was just being nice. I didn't read anything into it.

Now, there was this lady I had become quite close to. We all used to sit together and gist, and I genuinely thought we were on the same page.

In fact, this friendship was quite refreshing for me. She treated me like a little sister, told me about her handsome boyfriend who wasn't in the country, and would occasionally gist me about him.

I had visited her apartment a couple of times, and she had even taken me around some places in Abuja.

So, naturally, I thought we were good.

Tell me why, one faithful morning, this same babe called me into the bathroom for a chat.

Apparently, she wanted to warn me about stealing her man.

HER MAN!

Never in my wildest dreams did I think I would find myself in that position.

I was like, "Ah! Who exactly are you talking about?"

And she called his name.

My dear, I was SHOCKED.

I couldn't even understand what was happening. This was a married man, and someone was confronting me as though I was trying to take another woman's property.

I remember thinking, "So out of all the men in this world, na this one you are dragging me for?"

There are so many fish in the sea, and this is the one we're fighting over?

And the funny thing was that I genuinely hadn't known there was anything going on between them, but how would I, when he had a whole wife.

It was only much later that I discovered that this man actually wanted to date me. So, apparently, what I had initially interpreted as friendly gestures had a different intention.

Hmmm.

That experience taught me a thing or two about people and friendships. Sometimes, the people you think are looking out for you may not necessarily have the best intentions.

And perhaps more importantly, not every interaction needs to be entertained, especially when you don't know what someone else's intentions are.

You know what they say about keeping your enemies closer? Well, I guess I got a little lesson in that during my NYSC days. 😂

And that's just my two cents.